We have a new temp secretary where I work. I’ve only known her for a few weeks now… and worked with her as her supervisor. She’s nice enough… and trying to do a good job. Like so many others where I work, she made it obvious she was a deeply religious Christian. Which is fine with me… Whatever floats your boat… as long as you don’t try sinking mine if it is different than yours, I don’t care.
When we went to lunch, she made a big point of bowing her head and saying a prayer before eating. I patiently waited with my eyes open… but, did not participate. A few times, she started talking about spirits and demons… and faith and God. I politely listened, and then politely kept changing the subject. I saw no reason to delve into my complicated background and (probably offensive to her) beliefs.
She was a little over the top for me… talking about angels and spirits and demons… and visits from past relatives.. and no coincidences. I listened… but, told her I was a rather skeptical on such things but that I was glad she found peace in this. Then, I tried to not go there again… and stick to work with her. Still, I liked her well enough, and we could joke around a bit and work well together for the most part.
Then, one afternoon she flat out asked me out of the blue , “do you go to church on Sundays?”… I truthfully and without any excuses or guilt said, “nope”. Silence on her end and a questioning look seemed to beckon a further explanation from me. I sort of thought I shouldn’t have to explain… but, found myself saying nonchalantly anyway, “I use to go. I grew up going 3-5 times a week. But, I had enough and some bad experiences with it. So, I no longer go”. And, I left it at that. I went back to work on my PC… and ignored her disapproving, questioning look. She muttered something like, “seems like that happens. I never went to church until I was went on my own when I was in my 20’s and was saved”. I just said, “mmHmmm”, and didn’t really respond. I really was busy anyway…
She’s been there for about 4 weeks now… and, we seem to be getting along just fine. This past week I helped her make the transition into a different temp postion down the hall while her permanent replacement moved in with me. I liked her… but, I like my friend that is taking the job perm with me better.
Anyway, today, she was telling me some of the struggles of her new position… and she was very nice saying that she would rather be working with me… and that she really enjoyed working with me… and that I am a “good spirit”. OOooooo Kay. I’ll take that. So, I said, Thanks. She went on to say that she likes most everyone in our program/area… and that she’s happy to be working around so many Christians like me.
Wait. Now… in my head… the brakes were going on… I thought back… now, WHEN did I ever give her the impression that i am a Christian? Because I was polite? Because I was nice? Because I listened to her? I debated on if I should correct her, or let her believe that I was a Christian. But, before I could say anything duty called and we were back to work.
So, now I wonder… do I let her believe what she wants to believe?? Or, do I politely somehow correct her and let her know I’m not really a “believer”?
My gut tells me I should fess up… but, my brain wonders why I should have to fess up to not being something that I NEVER said I WAS????
And why the hell is this even all coming up where I work? I mean really? WTF?
I guess, I’ll have to politely tell her the next time she implies I am “with her”… that I am not really “with her”. It’s sad really, because I bet her whole opinion of me, and maybe even where we work will change if I do. Sort of ridiculous. Plus, I hate to get my “good spirit” comment revoked and get myself on yet another prayer list…. 😉